Men should stop letting women dictate what constitutes a “bad boy.” The whole stupid concept of bad boy in this culture has become a polluted, deformed and disingenuous manipulative distortion of masculinity. The bad boy imagery is promulgated by women and reinforced by the naive men who fuel the fire by buying into it blindly. Women have been allowed to culturally define the boundaries of a putative bad boy. I can only laugh at what they’ve painted as the bad boy.
Many men believe the bad boy epitomizes all the seedy, darkly magnetic qualities which trigger women’s primal lusts. It’s accepted that the bad boy must display all the ostentatious garbage that nobody questions. It’s all cosmetic: tattoos, facial hair, skin tunnels, shaved head…all of it is easily adapted to the typical male “looking” to fulfill the bad boy role. It’s all appearances. The cemented bad boy image is a female-driven manifestation he seeks to embody for her sake and capricious demands. Women thrive on emotion and interpersonal catharsis. They are turned on by the sensual and exaggerated. They don’t like milquetoast boys, they aren’t turned on by calm, clean-cut guys. They want the bad boy, but see, they only seek the appearance of the bad boy. They want all the superficial accoutrements of the bad boy image, but most self-respecting, decently intelligent women don’t really want the burden of an adult manchild. These are the women who don’t make a ruckus and escape the cynical glare of the Roissysphere because most worthwhile women don’t actively seek rakes. But they like the image. Women are all about image and the emotional conveyance that image carries with. The bad boy is a fantasy but they are happy if it stops there
The bad boy thing is merely what women envision it is because the image is media-driven. Men have very little to do with modern bad boy portrayals and definitions of the role because men only follow the whims of females. Men will do anything to excite girls and stir them up because this is the gateway to instant attraction and most men are ideally seeking a theoretical one-night stand only. All the bad boy signals are easily attainable. It’s easier to get a tattoo than to grow 4 inches or to get a pair of big black skin tunnels in both earlobes than to lose 25 pounds and hit the gym 3 nights a week for some serious lifting. Men just want to attract female attention anyway they can, and having no clue what is involved, they listen to the media and their female acquaintances. Women have internalized the patented bad boy image in their heads and their economic and consumer power has effectively disseminated this image throughout mass culture.
In fact, it’s crap like this National Enquirer story I saw in the checkout line at my local Meximart today that I’m talking about. Angelina Jolie is secretly hooking up with a bad boy. So the story promises. Brad Pitt is just too pretty.
This is the NE cover:
And here is a close up of the alleged bad boy, Jasson Gellerstedt:
OK, now the thing is, if you read the gossipcop.com article, you’ll learn that the NE headline was misleading (SHOCK!!) because the two haven’t seen each other in over 20 years, when they were both 13 and 14. However, I don’t care about Jolie and Gellerstedt. The point I’m trying to make is that the female-oriented National Enquirer is displaying one of the many channels by which femme thought is allowed to perpetuate the stereotypical image of a “bad boy.” Personally, Jasson Gellerstedt looks more like he’s consumed with tattoos than with being a bad boy. I have no idea what constitutes a bad boy. If I were to venture, I think a bad boy first and foremost has no need to play by the rules, anybody’s rules, including any body art subculture’s. I think a bad boy truly does what he pleases, when he pleases. I think the bad boy, because of this, may frequently find that he is cast from society. Perhaps he plays by no rules and does his own thing, the perfect concoction of alienation. Tattoos as symbols of bad boyism are stupid. Anyone can, and does, get tattoos. They are as common as trashy attitudes. Tattoos do not make the bad boy. I would even conjecture that bad boys may have tattoos, but that men who have tattoos are not necessarily bad boys. One thing I don’t understand about tattoos. Who wants to be marked for life by anything? It is like marriage. To ink. Any time you get something permanently etched in your skin you are announcing that you’ve committed the rest of your mortal life to being conjoined with some stupid artwork that will only deteriorate with time. In sickness and in health. You are not a bad boy. You are a conformist. You can’t do it alone. You need to mark yourself up, self-graffiti yourself in order to demonstrate…what? Your commiseration with this formerly fringe society that is now sadly and pathetically mainstream? If women consider this the face of a bad boy (which the National Enquirer seems to assert to its readership), we are guaranteed many, many more male replicas of Gellerstedt, each with an individual aspiration to turn on all the Angelina Jolies of the world. The saddest lesson being that boys now can only deduce an image of masculinity from female-driven mass media outlets rather than inherently or by familial role models. Today’s bad boy is formed by female committee.