Maternity as pathology

Maternity is the most accurate “canary” in the coal mine as indicative of the health of society. The state of maternity is the best gauge we have as to the collective mental health of today’s culture. Any patterns or ongoing disruptions in the manifestation of maternity across all groups is an indicator of a fissure in our collective social health. Some might presume I’m placing disproportionate weight on motherhood.

Why yes, I am.

I believe maternity is the most crucial element in our social structure for the preservation of a healthy, just civilization. Women who are proud of this are traditionalists; women who disown it are feminists. As a man, I think women should take pride in such power. This is an awesome responsibility, but alas, the slow destruction of maternity is just another premonitory hint of bad times looming on the horizon. Over the long haul, I cannot believe society will survive the dissolution of motherhood.

I see many signs that motherhood is becoming “pathologized” and this can only spell the slow destruction of a vibrant and healthy society. Any such “progress” as measured in such a culture of diseased maternity is not progress so much as an inflation of dystopian ideals and visions; progress in the culturally diseased context is best described as a metastasis of unhealthy trends and values, and this is all clearly an offshoot of the diseased (pathologized) state of motherhood in the year 2012.

The natural inclination of the maternal instinct, at its core, is to nurture offspring to help them attain breeding-age maturity. This induces a selfless devotion that seeks to accelerate the well-being of a mother’s brood and see that its chances for survival are maximized. This is the elemental instruction guide that propels mothering.

We live in a world where this ideal has been distorted and polluted. Personal examples abound of the mothering instinct gone haywire. I won’t bother detailing any, but we’ve all witnessed such examples and we can recognize when mothering becomes a pathology.

I was reminded of this by a post that appeared on Reddit this weekend:

This is what I am talking about when I refer to “distortion” or metastasis of the maternal instinct. By nature, the maternal instinct seeks to keep the child out of harm’s way which includes dangerous physical situations. The incident portrayed here is a mentally ill exaggeration of the maternal instinct. It is a rampant paranoia that tends to presuppose all manner of horrible atrocities lying in wait. It also presents the maternal instinct as a fear-mongering sort of misandry that embodies much of the cultural distrust of men. Increasingly we see situations where men are presumed guilty until proven innocent when it comes to the suspicions of overprotective mothers. This is a parallel phenomena to the popular “helicopter” mentality we witness in so many mothers who allow their control issues to blanket and steer societal mores and values. This maternal preoccupation would not be given air or grievance in eras past. It should be ignored and humored for that’s what happened before maternity became diseased. Certainly, the maternal impetus should not apply to all people, but as it turns out, maternal values have seeped into the collective mindset and maternal worries become pervasive and exaggerated and are validated to the point where they dictate values of society at large. We now live in a din of nanny-state intrusiveness and worry-wartism. Many innocents are defiled and tried.

The next highly visible display of the modern corruption of the maternal instinct is the pathological addiction to bearing children seen in some female population groups, especially as witnessed in the ghetto societies of Black and Hispanic women. There is an inexplicable urge on the part of these women, and enabled by equally careless men, to procreate in spite of all logical reason to the contrary considering the scarcity of resources possessed by the mother, the absent father, and the families. The most public face of this phenomena was the Octomom, Nadya Suleman. Here is a woman who publicly announced she found babies disgusting, and apparently, who found self-responsibility just as disgusting. A mother of six who still found a medical male enabler who had no problem impregnating her with a litter of 8 babies despite the fact she had no job, no professional experience and a trashy support system with ethics to match. Which essentially sums up the mentality of most modern mothers who are addicted to pumping children out in the face of all reason. There is a depersonalization of children implicit in this behavior. The addiction to giving birth is a method by which these mothers adulate themselves as life-giving goddesses. It is an egotisitcal drive to spawn life without regard to its aftermath. Which is the definition of an addiction.

Nadya Suleman, from a trailer for her porn flick, “Octomom: Home Alone.

And then.

There is the curious case of Adalia Rose. If you don’t know who she is and you have a sensitive soul, beware where you go for Googled info. Some of the stuff out there is horrendously insensitive. Adalia is one of those internet sensations who quite frankly don’t need to be. Adalia Rose is a 5-year-old girl afflicted with the very rare genetic disorder, Progeria, also known as the “aging” disease in which young children manifest the symptoms of rapid aging before 2 and rarely live beyond 20 years of age. It is a tragic, debilitating disease and leaves its victims withered and hairless. Adalia’s appearance is typical of someone suffering from Progeria.

Adalia has become a franchise of inflated praise, courtesy of her mother, Natalia Amozurrutia . This is a grave disease that should be dealt with privately and not mutated into a publicity vehicle by which to extract a level of praise that is an outright parody of itself. The maternal instincts being distorted here are pride and defense. Mothers will naturally defend the honor and reputation of their children. A mother will valiantly battle for her progeny’s future and social status. This plays out many times as that “maternal peer pressure” tension that occurs when mothers tend to manipulate their children’s schooling and activities in the most impersonal manner, as if their children were possessions rather than living beings. I feel very bad for Adalia’s condition and her future, and I applaud her strength and courage. This little girl has bigger balls than most men I know.

Still, I view Natalia Amozurrutia’s treatment of her daughter’s condition as an exploitative manifestation of this inclination in which she malevolently seeking to elicit praise for something that is obviously abhorrent to most reasonable people. She seeks to elicit lies in order to boost the ego of her daughter in a world that is not quick to part with praise for someone who looks like this. It is an utterly cynical move on the mother’s part for it seeks to blatantly manipulate people when all evidence clearly indicates they are doing so against their instinct. It’s a similar mechanism to the fabled “Emperor’s New Clothes.” Ultimately, we are left with a very sick, dying girl whose mother has usurped her identity into a shameless public vehicle of self-aggrandizement. It’s the degree that bothers me. If Natalia had kept this “low-key,” perhaps I’d have more consideration for her. This solicitation on her Tumblr page tells me otherwise.

Maternal pride, uncontrolled.

**On edit: Let us not forget these travesties of maternal pride.**

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  • @Your Lowness.
    Play dates are AWFUL!
    Yeah, some moms may shoot the bull, but trust me, some moms make that a structured event as well.
    As I said, moms and pussified dads need to kick back and let their kids play normal. Have a fight. I mean, how else are they going to learn how to take care of the bullies, right?!
    Ahh! My bad!
    Just have some protest, call the bullies haters and reprogram them.
    No, let the bullied smack the crap out of the bully and THAT ends it.
    And what I really think is that SWLPL and libs in general should not have kids. It is as if they think a child is but a sick science project.

  • Oh, and yeah, what that mother is doing, self-aggrandizing through her daughter’s condition, is sick, indeed. She should be ashamed of herself, exploiting her daughter’s condition for attention.

    • ski

      The whole religious right anti-birth control vs secular right eugenico-sterilization vs secular left everything goes debate is very interesting, but unfortunately they all seem off.

      It seems that if you follow Roman Catholic natural law to its logical conclusion, you’re forced to conclude exactly what Ghandi concluded, that sexual intercourse is only morally licit if engaged in with the intent to procreate (you can’t even have ‘natural’ family planning). This policy is perfectly moral but obviously isn’t feasible– most people don’t have enough self control for it (masturbation or non-intercourse sexual contact isn’t licit in this schema either).

      If you follow through with the liberal everything goes policy you get a bunch of abortions and general chaos, PLUS disgenics etc.

      But if you follow through with the secular right eugenics idea, well the possible evils of such a policy were already illustrated by the third reich and can very easily lead to genocide.

      Oh well, even if I had a solution nobody would listen, might as well let nature sort it out.

      • Hey, didn’t you hear: if you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem! ;)

  • Spot on, David.

    Pedohysteria is an insane overreaction to a relatively small number of actual cases of male predators; especially since it is most often the case, when assaults happen to children, that they happen by trusted friends or family members, NOT random Joe Strangers in the park who smile at a mother and her child/ren as they pass by. That makes it especially egregiously insulting to the vast majority of men…

    The welfare state is out of control, which probably is a featural bug, one endemic to the welfare state as such. If there wasn’t social assistance, there’d be a hell of a lot less white trash and ghetto trash with giant broods, because the dumb bitches would have to learn to either close their legs or starve (or whore, and only so many will do that…).

    End support for single moms; single moms will become less numerous. The Church can help, of course, by helping genuinely reformed women; say, who’ve only had one or two kids, but if they have more, practicing tough love, and refusing to help, and in fact disfellowshipping them, even better…

    • Gay State Girl

      Too late for that.

      • It’s never too late to start doing right.

        • Gay State Girl

          The only way you can do to lower the birthrate and prevent future pregnancies among the underclass is to forcibly sterilize them. Cutting programs, forcing them into work programs, or putting their existing children in foster care won’t stop them from having more children.

          • Yes it will, eventually; it may be a draconian measure, and some harm may come to some in the short term as they suffer and starve, but better that than fricking Nazi eugenics!

            But I am not surprised a Spergy girl wouldn’t see that.

          • Gay State Girl

            Forced sterilization is more humane than forced starvation.

          • Gay State Girl

            Or they could voluntarily undergo temporary sterilization in return for welfare and benefits.

          • It’s not forced starvation; it’s starvation due to bad lifestyle choices.

          • Gay State Girl

            I understand, but it’s one thing to allowing grown women to suffer their the consequences for their irresponsible behavior and misjudgement, it’s a different story when children are involved. It’s cruel to condemn a child to that kind of life.

          • Gay State Girl

            I’m not a eugenicist in the classical sense, I just don’t think that they can be reformed without intervention and pro life Churches can often be a negative influence.

  • Gay State Girl

    I do believe you’re overexaggerating a women influence. I firmly believe that innate characteristics are far more instrumental in determining the ideologies, convictions and behavior that people will display later on in life.

    • Your Lowness

      Ahh see, there is a fine distinction! I’m not speaking of women’s influence, per se, but the influence of maternity, which ultimately is shaped by mothers, fathers and the brew of society they create which defines motherhood. Technically, “women”and “maternity” are completely separate items. In fact, I made sure to mention a couple of times the secondary roles of men in the perpetuation of pathologized maternity.

      • Gay State Girl

        LOL Lynne Spears.

        The strong ones will be able to overcome aggressive momagers though.

  • Breeze

    I expected something else entirely for this post. There are feminists who are almost at the point of outright calling maternity in any form as a disease.

    Anyway, the future belongs to those who show up for it and right now that is looking like white trash, ghetto scum and muslims.

    • Gay State Girl

      I imagine fundamentalists of all religions will be outbreeding seculars. I’ve always regarded children as an emotional burden, but I can understand that feminists and fags and others who choose alternative paths that are unpopular among social conservatives better step up their birth rate if they want to continue those newly acquired liberties.

      Of course I’ll probably make my living as an egg donor, as mine remain untouched by the vaccines. I remain steadfast in my belief that I will transmit my own convictions to my offspring eve if I never meet them.

    • Your Lowness

      Haha, curve ball, eh? As the state of maternity goes, so goes society.

      One way to look at it also is that the future belongs to those who don’t, or can’t afford to, escape.

  • Ahh, thanks for the addition of the Crazy Pageant Moms!

    • Your Lowness

      Actually, I think they are the most vile sort of maternal dysfunction. Can you imagine if an adult male attempted to sexualize young girls like these mothers do? And I don’t care what they say, it is sexualizing. It’s not goofy innocence, it’s fucking with young girls minds and teaching them very early the wonders of attention whoredom.

      • Yeah, I agree with your colorful assesment. But it goes to the heart of one of my theories that children are NOT allowed to be kids. I mean, I think kids, by that I mean how it was when WE grew up, should be allowed to experience what we did. Roughhousing. Playing all day in the summer. Maybe even, or DA HORROR!, falling down and getting some serious scrapes. Or even break something. Damnit, these parents need to let their kids have a real like experience instead of their planned existense for their offspring.

        • Gay State Girl

          They even insist on organizing their play time and choosing the toys, books, or electronics based on what they would have liked at that age.

          • Your Lowness

            My favorite modern parental device are “play dates.” Defined moments during which “play” is allowed while primarily bored mothers sit and shoot the shit while keeping any eye over their children.

            You know what we are cranking out? Super-achieving unoriginal fuddy-duddies.

          • Again, spot on.

            The whole idea of structuring play time is absurd; play is something kids come up with spontaneously on their own, and that should be encouraged, rather than trying to structure it…

          • Gay State Girl

            I didn’t mind play dates so much, as long as the parents don’t get involved. But I have seen parents try to organize their childrens’ play dates and downtime as well. My aunt took my sisters and cousin on vacation and created a book club, with books that she had selected for them to read.

            You can’t instill creativity by spoon feeding it.

  • Hmm, a rather good post.
    I know what you mean about the overbearing moms. They are psychopaths! And the dads, well they might as well be in the corner with the kid.
    Oh, did I write kid?
    Another pathology is the one child (not bashing Your Lowness as you had a unique situation) approach. Most of these moms (again, dad is so SWLPLed or pussywhipped) want to only have one child to give everything to. Such vainglory.
    You touched on the minority communities and the rampany illegitimacy. I would like to ask what all that sex-ed did? I thought that it was suppose to stop all that?!
    Maybe one of the biggest liberal lies evah!
    I mean, when we were kids, this time of year we would go off in the AM and get home sometime in the PM and our parents thought that it was a good thing. Now, said moms and emasculated men are putting their prodigies in all sorts of activities. And yet they miss out on the most important thing.
    Being a kid.
    Maybe another post from Your Lowness?!
    Oh, you may be surprised about my reaction to that Todd Akin douchebrain but FTR, while I am very much pro-life, I am not an absolutist. I know that there have to be cases of exception. But that is for another time.

    • Gay State Girl

      I agree with extracurriculars and the loss of childhood, but it has also prolonged childhood and hindered maturation in a way. You can’t instill creativity, when you attempt to spoon feed it. I grew up with too many of these women. It’s a form of child abuse in my opinion.

      • Your Lowness

        It is child abuse but in a way, rather than adjust parenting styles, we are adjusting culture to be more accepting of their immature attitudes. So essentially we are grooming them to fit in rather well in the world :)

    • “I mean, when we were kids, this time of year we would go off in the AM and get home sometime in the PM and our parents thought that it was a good thing. Now, said moms and emasculated men are putting their prodigies in all sorts of activities. And yet they miss out on the most important thing.
      Being a kid.”

      Spot on, Mark. I hate modern parents for ruining their kids the way they are. And giving them such awful names…