I was thinking earlier, during my shower, about how women are always conformists.
Hmm, rather, I thought of how few women are really non-conformists. Even the women who pretend to be non-conformists usually accomplish this shakily through ostentatious displays of physical brashness. Very few women non-conform in spirit. Women don’t non-conform when it comes to true non-conformity. Lady Gaga probably thinks she’s a non-conformist. I think she’s full of crap. Implicit in her boldness is the unspoken goal of generating a commercially cool vibe which ultimately is contagiously conformist. Madonna, Rosanne Barr, all of them, they think they are so bold and trailblazing but it’s the same garbage with them all. I’m sorry, but wearing outlandish clothes or making crude jokes doesn’t not make women non-conformist. The female approach to non-conformity is cosmetic and too dramatic.
Because it all comes down to the bare essence of non-conformity.
While I’m on the subject, most men are not non-conformists either. Once again, I hate to break the news to them, but tattooed sleeves, penis piercings or dyed hair do not make you non-conformists except in your own scattered minds.
The problem is that non-conformity becomes a conscious exertion in itself, and becomes self-conscious. It’s a vicious cycle. All these clowns with tattoos and wild clothes are still conforming to their own subculture. Even subcultures, which pretend to thumb their nose at convention, are still a bunch of conformist sheep. Ever been to a punk concert or an artsy event? Everyone looks unusual as contrasted with Main Street, but within the realm of their deviant subculture, they are radical conformists. They are not bold. They are followers. Lame! I’ve had it with toy non-conformists. I hate the way they traipse around like trailblazers but they are nothing but attention whores. This covers most women who wouldn’t know the first thing about being non-conformists.
See, it’s an evolutionary remnant primed in our genders. Conformity is the safest route to survival. Conformity is composed and erected of the safe and predictable repetition of habits and mores which define our civilization; the female’s role perpetuates the safe havens of society that ultimately subsist on conformity. A woman who fails to conform endangers her progeny and breeding opportunities; a man who fails to conform endangers his ability to allow women to conform. A woman’s urge to conform is elementally ingrained in her psyche whereas a man’s is “second-hand” in that it is designed to enable the conformity of the other stability-enhancing gender.
This is why women are conformists. This is why they are afraid to think outside the box. This is why maybe only 3% of men are able to rouse a piercing sense of non-conformity. While the rest prance around in bizarre clothing or body art and listen to unusual music and call themselves non-conformist. But at heart, they are conformists. We believe that if we fail to conform to broader society’s dictum’s, we are non-conformist. This is wrong. If you conform to anything, you are a conformist. Even if you conform to a bunch of non-conformists. It’s the double-negative principle. Two non-conformists make one conformist.
To be a true non-conformist, you must depart absolutely from all human convenience. Your outrage and your desire can have a basis in absolutely nothing anyone normal can relate to. In fact, you must be crazy. Te be non-conformist is to truly be batshit insane. My point is that there are very few functioning non-conformists. Most people channel their non-conformity into slivered channels of expertise and specialization which is where major revolution occurs. Cultural evolution is inspired by non-conformity, but those who instigate it are most likely conformist in other aspects of their life. Non-conformity does not need to wear a visible badge or coat of arms to be sincere.
Non-conformity can lurk in your soul and exert its upheaval at the most inopportune times. Non-conformity is a void. You see?
Just as religious folks say evil is the absence of good, I believe non-conformity is the absence of conformity.
It is not an active progression. It is a recession. Those who can achieve non-conformity truly do not embark as much as they withdraw.